The Stranger Beside Me – Book Review

“For Ted has gone through life terribly crippled, like a man who is deaf, or blind, or paralyzed.  Ted has no conscience. “Conscience doth make cowards of us all,” but conscience is what gives us our humanity, the factor that separates us from animals.  It allows us to love, to feel another’s pain, and to grow”. – Ann Rule, Author of The Stranger Beside Me.

I watched the Ted Bundy Tapes on Netflix before reading this book, and I don’t consider myself one of his crazy fan girls that would have gone to his trials.  I am mostly just fascinated how a human being could have zero remorse, or any feelings whatsoever relating to all the innocent lives he took.

Aside from this book being about Ann Rule’s friendship with Theodore Robert Bundy,  it’s safe to say it has a lot of other important themes too. For example, the ability of trust and the importance of it, and how easily we as humans can be blindsided because of it.  Not only in relationships with people, but trust of a complete stranger. Additionally, she talks a lot about forgiveness and loyalty, especially through Ted’s point of view. And towards the end she discusses the death penalty (capital punishment), and how that was an important political issue during his trial in Florida.

She starts with a little bit of history about Ted’s childhood, adolescence, and his mother’s predicament, in that she had to give birth to Ted in a house for unmarried women (something along those lines).  His mother had to move away and pretend that Ted was her little brother, thanks to the judgmental society of the 1940’s. Anyway, he was considered an outsider, and not one of the ‘popular’ kids. As an adult he soon made up for what he lacked as an adolescent, and became handsome and charming.  He made friends easily and was actually a good listener and provided comfort, based on how Ann Rule described him. The point is, he became trustworthy, and I think he used this trait to his advantage, obviously! He had friends and family who trusted him, and he was easily trusted by strangers, to no fault of their own.

He also convinced his friends and lovers into somehow always forgiving him and made sure they stayed loyal to him despite his antics.  He did not have remorse for what he did, yet he was afraid of losing those close to him. Just don’t kill people! I don’t understand!  Okay, maybe he was crippled with the fact that he didn’t have a conscience, but still, c’mon Ted!  If he would have used his trustworthiness and loyalty traits and actually talked to someone about his ‘dark’ side, he could have gotten help! (These are things I’d say to him if he was in front of me, I hope he doesn’t haunt me!)

And I’m going to be completely honest, he got what was coming to him.  I remember doing a debate in my AP Government class in high school about Capital Punishment.  I can’t remember what my view was in high school, but I for sure would have been all for it had it been MY sister, or MY daughter, or MY friend, or MY mother, etc that was a victim of Ted Bundy.  If you take the lives of others that had a bright future ahead of them, someone who was someone else’s family or friend, and you have zero remorse, then GOODBYE FOREVER! I don’t care if you’re emotionally or psychologically crippled.  He could have gotten help early on, but decided to go on a different path, like Judge Cowart told him at the end.  I understand his mom’s plea during one of his court room sessions, but still, your son took away other parents’ beloved children, I’m really sorry Louise Bundy, Ted had to be punished for his terrible crimes!  Clearly I’m not Christian enough to forgive a person like him.

I don’t know what I would do if I had someone I knew that was close to me and ended up in this type of situation.  Ann Rule has a really big heart. She did her best to be his friend until nearly the end, and this mother fucker had the audacity to ask her for money for another ‘real classy lady’ named Carol Boone, his wife.  Ted, you lost your freedom because of YOU, stop crying about it and blaming others! Again, things I wish I could tell him.

Overall, I learned to seriously pepper spray a mother fucker first, and apologize later! And also, fuck politeness!  Thanks Georgia Hardstark and Karen Kilgariff for always reminding your listeners about this.

There’s more I want to say about this book. But I think I’d probably start to ramble. Even after so many years, Ann Rule never forgot about Ted. He was basically the main reason her career took off, which conflicted her in many ways. She sacrificed a lot of her time to aid the the future of criminal profiling.

I definitely recommend this book if you’re a true crime buff. And I recommend the Ted Bundy Tapes Netflix documentary as well!

What would you have done if Ted Bundy had been one of your ‘friends’?!


Salty Bitch Vibes

So, tell me about yourself.

If that’s not the most hated question on planet earth then I don’t know what is! Am I right?! Every time I’ve had to answer that question in the past for an interview I start to get spicy pits, sweaty palms, and I usually don’t have any idea what to say except that I’m a motivated, quick learner, team player, blah blah blah!

  1. I’m really not a salty bitch – I’d say half salty/half sweet 🙂
  2. The name Salty Bitch derived partly from a podcast I listen to all the time: My Favorite Murder.
  3. I’m a mother of one talkative little toddler who drives my husband and I crazy sometimes, but of course we can’t live without her!
  4. I’ve lived in Southern California all my life. Can’t see myself anywhere else – except maybe Oregon or Ireland!
  5. I went to CSU, Long Beach for my B.A. in Communication Studies and for my M.P.A – Masters in Public Policy and Administration.
  6. I love reading (obvi!) Wish I had more time though, and that I could mute my toddler sometimes #SorryNotSorry
  7. My favorite genre is historical fiction (specifically WWII novels) – my husband jokes that I love Nazis -__-
  8. Other favorite genres include true crime, contemporary fiction, some fantasy, mystery, and self-help occasionally.
  9. I used to want to be a Librarian when I was little – and also a Paleontologist, and then an Interior Designer.
  10. I used to have a makeup blog, and also a food blog. I stopped buying makeup by the tons, because I got over it. I still love food, but don’t make time to cook as much – but I plan to change that!
  11. I started drinking coffee when I turned 30!
  12. I grew up in the Seventh Day Adventist church (where my SDA people at?!) – but now I’m a heathen and I don’t attend church anymore. I’m sure I’ll be struck by lightning some day.
  13. I’m Mexican, married to a Colombian (also my high school sweetheart, crazy right?!)
  14. I’m a Harry Potter nerd, but I’ve only read the series once!
  15. I’m a Disney nerd too!
  16. I LOVE the Parks and Recreation T.V. series! – Ron Swanson and April Ludgate are me in a nutshell (half salty/half sweet 🙂
  17. I have one sister. And people always tell me I should have another child so my daughter can have a sister or brother (maybe, we’ll see!)
  18. I have 3 tattoos – my mom only knows about one. Did I mention I’m Mexican and my mom is a Seventh Day Adventist (google it)
  19. I’m 35 and I’m still scared of my mom #MexicanProblems
  20. I’m just here to talk about books, coffee, food, places to eat, bookstores and libraries to visit, and other nerdy things.

Tell me about yourself! Comment below 🙂